As a member of Generation X, I often reflect on the widening gap between my generation and those that follow—Millennials, Gen Z, and the emerging Generation Alpha. Rather than viewing this as a generation gap, I prefer to see it as a difference shaped by the unique demands and experiences of each era. Every generation adapts to its own cultural and societal realities. However, when these differences surface in conversation, there is a temptation to glorify our own time and diminish theirs—starting with phrases like, “During our time…” Such comparisons often close doors to understanding and meaningful dialogue with the youth.
Instead of judging the younger generation by our standards, we should make the effort to listen and understand them. Too often, adults ask, “What is wrong with this generation?” This question reflects a bias toward criticism and problematizing. But understanding begins with curiosity and compassion, especially for the complex world that today’s youth are navigating.
As a teacher, psychologist, and pastoral counselor, my work brings me into close contact with the lives of young people. Over the years, I’ve heard countless stories from teenagers, college students, and young adults—stories that reveal the fears, challenges, and longings they carry. These narratives have become the foundation of my hopes and dreams for their future.
I have met teenagers who appear disinterested and defiant, but who, after opening up, share stories of heartbreak, rejection, or failure. Some carry scars from self-harm, the physical expression of deep emotional pain. Others are overwhelmed by life transitions—graduation, employment, identity crises. Many feel pressured by expectations, stuck in toxic cycles, or uncertain of their future. A seminarian questions his calling. A bright student expresses distrust in institutions. A young actor worries about being replaced and burdened by family obligations. These aren’t just isolated incidents—they represent the inner struggles of the younger generations.
What has helped most in accompanying them is the simple but profound act of listening—not to fix them, but to understand them. By being present to their pain, confusion, and joy, I have found that they begin to heal and grow. In pastoral counseling, we help them reflect through questions such as: “What is my contribution to this issue?” or “What is God’s invitation for me here?” From this reflection comes discernment—towards responsibility, accountability, and freedom.
My hopes and dreams for the youth are rooted in a holistic view of man becoming fully alive taught by my mentor, Fr. Ruben Tanseco, SJ. He emphasized three dimensions: intrapersonal (how one relates to oneself), interpersonal (how one relates to others), and metapersonal (how one engages with society and the world).
Intrapersonal: Becoming One with the Self and God
Most of the youth’s struggles begin with how they see themselves. Adolescence and young adulthood are periods of identity formation, often marked by insecurity and self-doubt. In this age of social media and constant comparison, many youth measure their worth by external validation. As a result, their actions are often driven by emotional needs rather than self-assurance.
My hope is for the youth to discover a sense of self-worth not based solely on achievements or others’ opinions, but on the truth that they are deeply loved by God. When young people recognize themselves as God’s beloved, their motivations shift. They move from “I can” to “I am”—from doing to being. With greater self-awareness, they can better accept and affirm themselves, becoming more secure, loving, and generous individuals. My dream is that they undergo a journey of self-discovery that leads to confidence and compassion.
Interpersonal: Forming Deep and Empathetic Relationships
Human relationships are another significant source of joy and pain for the youth. Relationship issues often begin at home, where family dynamics shape how one interacts with the world. As they grow, they encounter new social environments—schools, churches, workplaces—where they must learn to connect and collaborate.
However, healthy relationships require a foundation of self-worth. Once young people value themselves, they are better equipped to value others. Relationships can then evolve from being merely functional or transactional to truly meaningful. Affective intimacy, empathy, and mutual respect become possible.
My hope is for the youth to develop empathetic hearts and the courage to be vulnerable. I dream that they learn how to communicate with honesty and kindness, to listen with openness and compassion, and to build relationships rooted in authenticity and mutual care. By mastering skills like “I messages,” empathy, and active listening, they can avoid blame and judgment, and instead foster deeper human connection.
Metapersonal: Engaging with Society and the World
The younger generations are eager to make a difference. They want to be seen, heard, and valued. In their letter to Church leaders during the 2019 Year of the Youth, Filipino youth expressed a desire to be recognized as gifted, blessed, and empowered. This is a powerful reminder that the youth do not just want change—they want to lead it.
My dream is for the youth to bring their creativity, passion, and idealism into every arena—education, science, politics, art, church, environment, and beyond. They have the talent, the tools, and the tenacity. With guidance and support, they can lead with integrity and imagination.
It is also my hope that they embrace their role in shaping the institutions and systems that surround them. Rather than being disillusioned by the failures of older generations, they can choose to become catalysts for transformation. I hope they harness their tech-savviness, innovative thinking, and deep sense of justice to serve the greater good. I hope they engage with the world not just as passive recipients but as active participants and co-creators.
While I have many dreams for the younger generations, these three foundational hopes—intrapersonal, interpersonal, and metapersonal—are where I believe deep, lasting change can begin. I pray that every young person is given the chance to explore their identity, form genuine relationships, and take their place in the world with courage and clarity.
If they are supported in discovering their true self-worth and encouraged to act from that center, then they will indeed “set the world on fire”—not with destruction, but with compassion, creativity, and hope.
Lei Lopez is a pastoral counselor at RMT Center for Family Ministries; faculty, human formation facilitator and counselor to various seminaries; and a proud mother to three young gentlemen.