Fr. Victor C. De Jesus, SJ
Feast of the Holy Family of Jesus, Joseph, and Mary
December 27, 2015
Of course the Holy Family is holy! Jesus is God. He preserved his Mom from all sin because of her special role. So, only the foster father Joseph was ever touched by sin. Still, by the grace of God, his holiness is such Scripture praises him as the just man.
Does the Holy Family then have an unfair advantage over us Catholic Christian families in our struggle to be holy? No.
After all, each of us has the Holy Spirit of the Son of the Father residing in us, by virtue of our Baptism! And Jesus gave each of us the Blessed Mary, Ever-Virgin as our Mother too. And we have St. Joseph who prays with and for us. Besides, we have the Word of God to show us the way to wholeness and holiness as Catholic Christian families.
Hannah in 1Samuel 1 shows us how helpful it is to: a) pray for our children, show our gratitude to God for our children, b) take the trouble early on, to bring our children to “Temple”, c) have in mind and heart that they are the Lord’s children, d) dedicate our children to the Lord.
All right, we don’t need to literally leave our children to live in the Temple like Hannah did. But, we can make our home truly, an ecclesia domestica, the Church in the home, exercising the holiness spoken of in Colossians 3: “heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another”, the respect for parents and kindness to the elderly spoken of in Sirach 3, the reverent and loving “fear of the Lord” in Psalm 128 or fostering the yearning for God and continual praise of the Lord in Psalm 84.
The Gospel reminds parents to bring children to Church and, if affordable, on pilgrimage! And it should comfort parents who have trouble understanding children and where they’re coming from. (News flash: Children today come from a different planet, literally!) Prepare to forgive in advance because a lot is lost in translation. Like Mary, parents need holy patience and quiet time to ponder the mystery of their children and how God may be inviting the parent to relate to their children as they grow in “age and wisdom and grace” with the occasional lapses in wisdom.
7 Practical tips inspired by the readings, esp. Colossians 3:
6. Invest in buying a copy of the Bible for every member of the family (this may involve special kids’ picture bibles), not just the so-called big “family bible” which gathers dust on some altar. There are “cool” youth bibles too. There are of course smartphone bibles too.
7. You need a catechism different from the one you learned as kids. Buy and/or download a copy of The Catechism for Filipino Catholics (English and Filipino versions available.) And read a section a day.
So you don’t lose it completely, when you’re at your wits’ end dealing with your children, take a break, and you may say to the Lord, “Anak niyo po ‘yan. Kayo na muna ang bahala” and go ahead and watch a few Youtube comedy videos for a while.